Women suffer during premature ejaculation too

'Women suffer during premature ejaculation too': Psychologist reveals the frustration of the partners of men who are 'too tied up in their own (short-lived) pleasure'

• Premature ejaculation in men can cause psychological stress in women

• 40% of women think ejaculation control is very important for satisfying sex

• Many say men who are worried about lasting long enough are distracted from focusing on their partner's pleasure and enjoyment during sex

• The women's frustrations can lead to relationships to breakdown

Premature ejaculation is well-known to blight the sex lives of millions of men.

But a new survey has confirmed what many women know to be true - it's not only their partners who suffer.

Swiss research found premature ejaculation in men also causes psychological stress in women - and not just because of the duration of intercourse.

Premature ejaculation in men can cause sexual frustration in women, new research shows

Andrea Burri, a clinical psychologist at the University of Zurich, surveyed more than 1,500 women from Mexico, Italy and South Korea.

She discovered that 40 per cent think ejaculation control is very important for satisfactory intercourse.

And many said the short duration of sex with a man with premature ejaculation causes sexual frustration.

However, interestingly, it was more common for the women to say the main cause of frustration was the man’s focus on delaying ejaculation.

They said this meant the men were distracted from the woman’s needs and desires.

For the majority of the women polled, satisfying sex did not only consist of sexual intercourse, but also included kissing, caressing and other forms of sexual stimulation.

Women say men who are worried about ejaculating too early are distracted from focusing on their pleasure

They said that if the man is primarily preoccupied with premature ejaculation and his performance, these needs are ignored. 

Dr Burri explained that if a man suffers from premature ejaculation, sex is increasingly about time rather than pleasure and that this can be frustrating and distressing for a woman.

She said that in the long run, these women may start to avoid sexual contact which can damage the relationship.

And added that many essentially harmonious relationships end in a split because of the woman’s bottled-up frustration.

‘After all, the consequences are often more far-reaching than simple sexual dissatisfaction as, in extreme cases, it poses a threat to the desire to have children if the man already ejaculates prior to actual intercourse.’

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2635188/Women-suffer-premature-ejaculation-Psychologist-reveals-frustration-partners-men-tied-short-lived-pleasure.html

Premature ejaculation: experts arrive at a definition

Premature ejaculation is a distressing condition that men usually suffer in silence

Experts in sexual medicine from around the world have, for the first time, defined lifelong and acquired premature ejaculation, paving the way for clear medical recognition and the development of better treatment.

Acquired premature ejaculation is when men who have had normal sexual function during their lifetime experience sex that lasts less than three minutes, while lifelong premature ejaculation is when sex lasts for a minute or less.

This is the first time the conditions have been given uniform classifications.

The new definition for acquired premature ejaculation specifically refers to intravaginal sex between a man and a woman that results in distress, frustration or avoidance of sexual intimacy.

Patrick Jern, post-doctoral researcher of psychology at Abo Akademi University, said premature ejaculation was a common sexual complaint.

“We don’t have a very good understanding of its causes,” he said.

Dr Jern said current diagnostic criteria for lifelong premature ejaculation were quite stringent, meaning a lot of men experiencing problems with their ejaculatory control did not fulfill them.

Lead author of the new guidelines for the diagnosis and treatment of premature ejaculation, emeritus professor Stanley E. Althof, said previous definitions had been mostly based on expert opinion rather than evidence.

This had, in turn, affected research efforts because in designing their studies, researchers in the field had been using different definitions and groups.

“The experimental group for one author might be the control group for another paper. It all became very confusing,” he said.

Professor Althof said having a conservative, evidenced-based definition would allow recognition of the condition by regulatory agencies and development of new therapies.

“With a conservative-evidenced based definition, regulatory agencies will view premature ejaculation as a genuine condition, rather than a lifestyle disorder,” he said.

Dr Michael Lowy, a sexual health physician specialising in premature ejaculation who wasn’t involved in the recommendations, said the condition was very distressing but men usually suffered in silence.

Treatment guidelines include psychotherapy for men alone as well as couples; behavioural techniques that enable men to build up confidence; and online treatment programs. They also include a number of drugs such as oxytocin, topical anesthetics and a common class of antidepressants known as SSRIs, among others.

Dr Lowy said researchers had a lot of experience treating premature ejaculation with selective serotonin re-uptake inhibitors (SSRI), which raises serotonin levels and, as a side effect, delays ejaculation.

Due to a lack of research into populations of homosexual and bisexual men, acquired premature ejaculation has not been defined for men who have sex with men.

http://theconversation.com/premature-ejaculation-experts-arrive-at-a-definition-27023